the concept of friends.

hi everyone!

the weather's really pretty today. i hope everyone is out there making the best of it! :)

this post is about the concept of friends. i know i talk about it a lot but i had a somewhat unusual experience on saturday that sparked this entry. it was my friends birthday gathering on saturday night. i usually don't do the whole bar/lounge/club thing but she's a rather good friend of mine so my friend and i thought we'd go, even if it was just for a little bit. we didn't get to the place till 11pm because the traffic was really awful... gps said 6 minutes to go but then it actually took us over half an hour! anyway, by the time we got there, i suspected that the birthday girl had already had a decent amount of alcohol to drink at her house before coming out. in the spirit of things, people were buying her drinks (and so were we!) because she still looked and talked as though she was fine. it wasn't until she fell over on the dance area that we decided she should probably stop drinking and sit down for a while. another friend suggested that we take her upstairs because it'd be less noisy. so altogether, 5 of us went up. a security guard came over and said that the birthday girl had to leave because she was too drunk. as we were exiting, one of the friends disappeared. i thought that was odd. so it was just myself, my friend, the birthday girl and one of her other friends forcing her to walk down the street. this was followed by the usual (i'm told) events that occur when a person is heavily intoxicated.

what struck me about the whole situation is that none of her close friends were with her or looking out for her. once we headed upstairs, i have no idea where everyone else was. the one close friend that came up with us magically disappeared when we left the lounge. what ever happened to looking out for friends? making sure they're alright? and if they're not, staying with them until they are? what's the point of having friends when they're not even there when being a friend actually means something?

i'm obviously not saying that you use your friends but i think when you're with a friend then you kind of have the innate responsibility to look after each other. of course you don't purposely do stupid things knowing that others will look after you, but when it just happens... i mean, really. what on earth are people thinking these days?

xx.